I like to remind myself of something self-help guru Brian Tracy once said, “your mind is like a garden. If you do not deliberately plant flowers and tend carefully, weeds will grow without any encouragement at all.” Weeds grow on their own whether they get sunshine or rain, but flowers need cultivating and nourishment to grow into its most beautiful self. Such it is with us… negativity does not need any effort from us in order to consume our thoughts – it will run rampant in the absence of positivity.
It is a good thing to keep in mind. We have control over our thoughts, and we can choose how we view the world. I always found that to be a fascinating concept. That everyone can experience the same situation, but our individual emotions and reactions to it can change depending on our state of mind. Ultimately it is OUR CHOICE how we experience the world so let’s take more responsibility for something that only WE control – our minds. No one can take that from us. If they did (through abuse, lying, etc), then it is our job to take the necessary steps to regain control over our thoughts and work through it until we can once again pamper our mind into a state of peace.
There is a basic consensus on how to start this journey. I will share a few of them with you…
- Meditate. Some of my favorites are The Honest Guys and Tara Brach
- Eat well and exercise. Find a diet and routine that works well with your schedule and comfort level – baby steps.
- Self-discovery. Realize what holds you back and work to resolve those issues through books, a therapist, etc
- Stay away from secondhand stress and negativity, and focus on what makes you feel happy, good, energetic, and positive
- Set goals. Decide what you want to accomplish in your life and create attainable steps to reach it
- Take responsibility of your life. Do not blame others or expect them to create your happiness
- Find things that make you happy and integrate them into your life everyday, i.e. exercise, helping others, creating, etc. Happiness also comes from learning to pivot your negative thoughts into positive ones.
If you are interested, delve further into the creation of positivity by allowing the experts to share their knowledge with you:
Be the Best You: 7 Keys to a Positive Personality by Brian Tracy
7 Ways to Raise your Positivity IQ from the Chopra Center
Seven Secrets to Joyful Life from Dwayne Dyer
How to Be a Positive Thinker from Deepak Chopra
(Apparently ‘seven’ is the magic number of the day)
If we were all happier inside, we would all live more positive lives on the outside. We can each do our part to create a more positive and loving world. Let’s start with ourselves.
It is the intention of this site is to create more love and less hate, so in order to protect the sanctity of this forum, I ask you to respect my judgment-free zone where everyone can safely share without worry of criticism. I welcome all productive and positive contributions to this open forum, in any way you wish to accomplish this.